- Winnie The Pooh -
Why they're tough.
Why they're beautiful.
What I've learned.
- Be honest. It's okay to be sad, angry, or worried. We should accept what we're feeling in our hearts, as it represents our kindred connection. If comfortable enough, we should also express these feelings. Tell someone or write it down. Feel it as it's part of the process.
- Stay present. Leading up to the separation, it's easy to be consumed by the thought that it will soon be ending. We feel like the last day/moment needs to be extra special and executed perfectly to make a lasting impact on our memories. However, just let it be. Experience each moment without anticipation of the next, and embrace the normality. Which leads me to...
- Keep it simple. Grandeur will catastrophize the finality. We should stay true to the essence of our relationship with the person/place/etc., and keep the final moments as simple as possible.
- Be grateful. No matter what has led up to the "goodbye," be thankful for what has been shared with the person, place, job, etc. It may help to write down what we are most sad about leaving, and to be very specific. Recall all these positive attributes, feelings, and moments to feel the happiness you have shared. This gratitude will heal your soul, and bring positivity to the temporary pain.
What I'm feeling.
This morning, I said "see you later" to someone who has, in two months time, completely changed my world. In my heart, I am full of love and gratitude for the ability for us to connect. I am thankful we were pulled together by the universe. I am faithful in further developments of our connection, despite physical separation. I know there will be days where I'm missing more than others. Yet, I will be carrying with me a full heart. It will be worth the hurt, which will undeniably coincide the immense joy and elation. I know this is not permanent, and we will be united again soon. My heart is so full, and I am so lucky.
You can love someone so much...But you can never love people as much as you can miss them.
- John Green, Paper Towns