I remember my favorite yoga instructor once asking--WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU COULD LIVE FREE OF FEAR? Isn't this an incredible concept? Within this question, it suggests that fear is LIMITING. Fear is holding us back from pursuing your passions or goals, and it is poisoning to the soul. Rather than fight for our dreams, we end up being bystanders. We avoid something that is fearful because it's uncomfortable and contains largely unknown factors. This is where I believe we should intervene and actively fight for what we desire.
What about the stomach-twisting feeling you get when you have a decision to make? When we are in a situation that just feels wrong? In this case, fear is the healthy sign that tells us to STOP and feel. Our awareness automatically shifts to our gut where our energy has shifted, and questions are arising. Rationalization and “thinking through” is not the best strategy for these sickening, fear-awakening decisions. When fear is involved, I believe the decision-making process goes deeper than logic. In fact, over thinking blinds us from what we are actually feeling. In my past, I often found myself lost in thought and spending time alone would drive me to insanity because my thought processes would run in loops around various topics. These were not fruitful topics, but rather self-destructive in a way that led to confusion and frustration. Today, I am working towards an inner peace with the thoughts that arise and fall with my every breath. Instead of overthinking, I trust my intuition.
What I feel drives what I think.
What I think drives what I feel.
Now you’re confused. Where’s the control? If our thoughts and emotions are an open-looped process, where can we intervene? The truth is, we simply CANNOT. Of course, we can modify the overall process by inputting feelings of resilience, peace, and understanding. Rather than trying to “control” a feeling of sadness, confusion, loneliness, anger, or frustration, we must accept it for what it is at the moment. Bask in the glory of what our inner body is telling us. If we learn to accept what we are feeling, we can let it go and move onto more positive thoughts. It is more of a transition than a transformation. Our emotions are not light switches. We cannot be happy one second, sad the next – it’s more of a process to get to that next state. Thus, trying to take “control” of our thoughts and feelings does not sound plausible.
I am suggesting FEAR is one of the unavoidable emotions that help pave the path of our thoughts. Fear may derive from many situations, most of which involve change.
Remember--if your dreams don't scare you, they may not be big enough!
{Side Note: Right now, I am certainly feeling mixed emotions after an amazing five days with my family. This was remedied by a self-prepared delicious dinner, LOVE incense burning, and good music. My laundry basket is full, my suitcase is still packed, and my kitchen is probably a disaster, but it's time for some zen and connecting with my inner feelings, releasing fear, and getting a good night's sleep to continue the rest of this week with energy.}
ॐ KConn
What about the stomach-twisting feeling you get when you have a decision to make? When we are in a situation that just feels wrong? In this case, fear is the healthy sign that tells us to STOP and feel. Our awareness automatically shifts to our gut where our energy has shifted, and questions are arising. Rationalization and “thinking through” is not the best strategy for these sickening, fear-awakening decisions. When fear is involved, I believe the decision-making process goes deeper than logic. In fact, over thinking blinds us from what we are actually feeling. In my past, I often found myself lost in thought and spending time alone would drive me to insanity because my thought processes would run in loops around various topics. These were not fruitful topics, but rather self-destructive in a way that led to confusion and frustration. Today, I am working towards an inner peace with the thoughts that arise and fall with my every breath. Instead of overthinking, I trust my intuition.
What I feel drives what I think.
What I think drives what I feel.
Now you’re confused. Where’s the control? If our thoughts and emotions are an open-looped process, where can we intervene? The truth is, we simply CANNOT. Of course, we can modify the overall process by inputting feelings of resilience, peace, and understanding. Rather than trying to “control” a feeling of sadness, confusion, loneliness, anger, or frustration, we must accept it for what it is at the moment. Bask in the glory of what our inner body is telling us. If we learn to accept what we are feeling, we can let it go and move onto more positive thoughts. It is more of a transition than a transformation. Our emotions are not light switches. We cannot be happy one second, sad the next – it’s more of a process to get to that next state. Thus, trying to take “control” of our thoughts and feelings does not sound plausible.
I am suggesting FEAR is one of the unavoidable emotions that help pave the path of our thoughts. Fear may derive from many situations, most of which involve change.
Remember--if your dreams don't scare you, they may not be big enough!
{Side Note: Right now, I am certainly feeling mixed emotions after an amazing five days with my family. This was remedied by a self-prepared delicious dinner, LOVE incense burning, and good music. My laundry basket is full, my suitcase is still packed, and my kitchen is probably a disaster, but it's time for some zen and connecting with my inner feelings, releasing fear, and getting a good night's sleep to continue the rest of this week with energy.}
ॐ KConn